"MOM, my statistics got 39 minutes. I really do not understand what the teacher speaks, books are not read, so that the pain of learning too. "This is a bit early to the United States by Chinese students to her mother's message. In fact, each child abroad will encounter some pain, this will require early family children do well to study preparations.
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Long ago, the middle age by the resignation of Mr Tang, ran to the work of Hong Kong's mother to go to a job, everything from scratch, the couple also separated the two. All this is to make more money, his son sent abroad.
In the face of often hundreds of thousands or even millions of study costs, a significant number of families because the children to go abroad, must be "Le tighten belt". Them, some even from "well-off" back to the "subsistence".
Although the majority of Chinese families children a strong sense of responsibility, but there are some children had no small issue. Engaged in studying of Xiao Liu explains, some students ' parents were farmers, with relatives and friends of borrowed money to send their children abroad; some parents to raise money or even sold the House, "alien" in homes of relatives. But some children abroad does not treasure after not only spend, so drop enthrallment.
To this end, the Shanghai study circles in the pop up a "loan agreement", i.e., parents and the child has entered into an agreement, to declare the children after the age of 18 should bear the costs of the parents paying the "borrowing" belongs to. Compared to the previous parent of the "committed to not return", signed a loan agreement "," parents believe that this is one form, has no legal effect, but you can let the children form a sense of themselves, do not think anything is well-deserved, wealth to labor.
Content and communication for child care, "" soul
While abroad you need to safeguard the economic strength, but Shanghai Jiao Tong University psychology counseling center of Liu ye ping believes that money is not a major problem. "Why do some children at home all right, a country would drop out of school, or even violent behavior?" Liu ye-ping, the child's psychological preparation is studying the family the most attention, and the most difficult to complete in a short time.
"Some parents only valued children score is good or bad, and the remaining time to care for children eat sleep very well, which at best is the ' animal-care ' instead of ' concern '. "Liu ye ping with respect, parental neglect and deep communication between the child, that child" learned Chinese nor speak ", encountered difficulties do not vent and release. To a foreign country, not a personal support, problems arise. Therefore, a child from the parents to prepare, these include communication skills, independent thinking and anti-strike capability, sometimes frustration but it is more suitable for the child to education.
It is understood that, at present because the children studying abroad and become a stay-at-home parent, in China there are 80 million. Not long ago, Shanghai also has "left-behind parents birth Club", the circle of not only allowing parents to share experiences to enable children to have more "parents".
Not all children are suitable for sending
Liu ye ping encountered a junior 小宋, home condition is very good, parents are entrepreneurs, ready to send their children abroad, but as a psychologist, she does not support this approach: "the child's mind is still quite immature. ”
In conversation, learn some rural China 小宋 is very poor, there is no way that he should have asked: "why didn't they helicopter?" Liu ye ping that 小宋 's mental age lower than actual age 5-6 years old, a separate delivery overseas to life learning, is likely to go astray.
Shanghai Academy of social sciences, Institute of the Sun youth hold hung, send their children abroad does not mean that he must have access to quality education, we must consider the child's own criteria to see if he was to have considerably maturity and responsibility. "Root is not positive, do not want to read a child, where their results may be different. ”
But in the last week a news conference, some study intermediary companies, training institutes and Vice-Consul in Shanghai have also a reminder to correct misunderstandings — want to study abroad to study, change, do not study sacred, as long as to the future development of the "gold"; and do not necessarily good will study abroad refuse, that is not at home reading good books, in foreign countries can "mix up". Students should contact their own strength, correctly accomplishments and future expectations.
For the sake of the children abroad, some parents in children 4 years of English teaching respect for, as he collected, field trips throughout the school. Although not all parents have the mind, but returned home to prepare for, obviously not a notes, a ticket that simple.
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